The Performer

The Performer

Audre Lorde

I write for those women who do not speak, for those who do not have a voice because they were so terrified, because we are taught to respect fear more than ourselves. We've been taught that silence would save us, but it won't.


Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Woman to woman related Q & A... for you!!

Hello Lovely people!

I'd like to first and foremost thank you for attending our "Woman to woman" health forum that was held on Sunday 18th July, 2010. It was nice having you around and discussing a several health issues that directly touched on same-sex practicing individuals and couples. Thank you for sharing your experiences and allowing 'our very own' daktari tackle some of your concerns. You are wonderful people and I miss you already!

For those that never made it, well, am sure you do not miss the next one because it will certainly be better than our first. We will be digging deeper into issues of health, relationships and sex which have taken sometime to bring to the table!

I will therefore in this regard be posting some commonly asked questions and the answers.

Let us break the silence surrounding our health as same gender loving persons, it may save lives!

I Love you and please take care of yourselves...


I am in a monogamous relationship with my girlfriend. We're both lesbians and I’ve only had sex with her,neither has she. Do I need to worry about an Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) check?

Safer sex is all about reducing the risk of infection. Your situation can be described as a very low risk one. If both you and your partner have not had any other partners previously and don't have sex with anyone outside the relationship then the risk of an STI is very low. If your partner has been sexually active with other people, then there is some risk that she may have an STI.

If your partner is diagnosed with an STI, then it is important that you get tested to see if she has passed it onto you. It is also important that you are honest with each other, so that if one of you has sex outside the relationship, you are able to discuss it together and reassess the risk. Safer sex practices can help make sex safer, even when there is no STI risk.

For instance, risk reduction practices will help reduce the chance of getting thrush or Urinary Tract Infections (UTI) – both of which can occur as a result of sexual activity without any transmission from a partner.


  1. Here is my query K8ty,
    Can one tell whether a woman/man is gay by looking at and observing him/her?
    Am thinking from the way she talks,walks,the kind of things she likes or even her choice of discussion topics in public and the list is long.

  2. Thank you for the query.
    Well what I will say on my part here is, there is usually some chemistry which makes one easily conclude that the other person may be like them. This is mainly instinct based.
    And trust me whenever you feel this about someone then there are high chances that you are right about them. However, the like-minded ones also tend to take us bu surprise and we end up thinking they may be gay while they're just NOT!
    It's all about chemistry I believe!